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Re: Crossdressing Husband

CrimichDrop Dead Fred — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 09:26:00 -0000

Don't ask him. just smile and say "I love you and it's ok."

Re: Crossdressing Husband

Drop Dead Fred — Wed, 09 Nov 2011 09:18:01 -0000

Let him.
There is no reason for you to be hurt by his behavior. If he did not love you he would not have married you.
His cross dressing has nothing to do with your own sexuality. The fact that he didn't tell you actually shows that he feared your disaproval and potentially loosing you.
I can honestly say (as a man) that the vast majority of the time our desceptions are more focused on a need to protect our families from being hurt than as a means of getting what we want or on occasion even need.
In a nut shell. The steriotypical male environment is one of strength, responsibility, sacrifice, and protection. These are the dictates that we as a social group place apon each other. Thay are ingrained within us from an early age. They are traditionally unflexable and therefor non allowing of any seeming weakness.
Weakness opens up the potential of someone else taking advantage of your family.
Allowing him the need to express his softer side is an issue of trust. In that it displays that You trust Him.
Without trust you have nothing. Without trust all these things traditionall ingrained in the male steriotype only serve to enslave him. Resentment will build and your marriage will faulter and most likly end because of it.
If you find it difficult to honer his needs due too your own discomfort and yet wish to maintain your relationship then my suggestion would be couples therapy to help you deal with the issue in hopefully a constructive manner. You may even try to provide him some private time to be himself once in a while if you are truely that uncomfortable with his crossdressing.
Just remember. This is a part of him. If you love him you need to love all of him. In every relationships there needs to be balance. In order to achieve this balance both sides need to make concessions. In an Ideal relationship no concessions are needed to achieve this balance. There are NO ideal relationships.

Re: Crossdressing Husband

Nikita — Fri, 21 Oct 2011 22:43:24 -0000

I understand your feelings of liking womens clothing and how it feels on the body. You feel sexy and alluring. My husband after twelve years of marriage has just told me about his desire to dress in private like a woman. At first I was taken aback as I thought it meant he was telling me he was gay, but he says he is a lesbian in a mans body. Which ironically he is really saying he is gay just a lesbian. Our sex life has always been a struggle as I am like a man in my desires to have it often and he was like a woman who repeatedly rejected me with various excuses. Now he is making our love life more of a priority as I love him unconditionally. I like to treat him in bed like he is a woman by kissing his breasts and removing his bra to ravish him as I like to be ravished. Well I guess we have both become suto lesbians and he has a strap on that God gave him. I am very appreciative and I feel he is so much more uninhibited. I am ultra girlie and I adore dressing up in elegant fashions like Samantha from sex and the city. So I thought I would be open-minded as I have previously dressed up many of my gay friends in drag for shows. I dressed up my husband and made him up as I am a professional cosmetic artist. We discussed everything from my concerns of deceit and living a double life as he is a truck driver. I see him every two weeks on average for a short stints so trust is at the forefront in any relationship. He knows that I don't feel comfortable with him cross dressing when he is away as this is all new for me.Ultimately we are soul mates and for all I know in my past life I could have been the man and he the woman. God definately has a sense of humor and his grace helps me see that I am truly blessed for my princess husband. Girl power! I pray for your wife's understanding and compassion. You will both get through this. Best wishes!

Re: Caught Crossdressing

Pete — Wed, 19 Oct 2011 16:16:57 -0000

As someone whose wife is struggling with my crossdressing, it was nice to hear how it can work out sometimes
Pete normandie

Re: Why Do Men Crossdress?

Jason — Tue, 18 Oct 2011 23:35:47 -0000

Hi , I'm not sure. But I think I just like the clothes and it makes me feel good inside and out. I'm not as into it as most others as in , I don't really wear skirts and dresses. But I do wear girls clothes everyday and I love the way it make me feel. I also feel I'm ment to be pretty.

Re: Crossdressing Husband

Trish — Mon, 10 Oct 2011 12:53:20 -0000

I had been dating my boy friend for 6 months before I found out that he is a cross dresser. Was I surprised, OH yea , because I had never met such a manly man. He is a police officer and goes fishing and all of the usual manly things but thinking back I had caught him I could see that softer side of him.

I had gotten to his house early and decided to fold his laundry and found panties and bras and nighties in the laundry so being the curious type I am I looked in his dresser and found a whole drawer full of panties and another with bras. He has more than I do lol. Anyway when he got home about 30 minutes later I asked him about them. I didnt confront him because that would only have made the conversation harder. He had a scared look in his eyes and told me about his dressing and that he had been doing it since he was a teenager. He now in his 40s. As we talked I realized this wasnt justa "thing" for him, it was a nicessity. I also realized that the man I have fallen in love with was still the same man but I had just found out something else about him. We must ahve spent 2 hours talking and he showed me all of his cloths and modeled some for me. That was almost 6 months ago and since then I have moved in with him. I support him with his dressing and actually enjoy it. We have nights that we have some great girl time and then there are nights that I want a full man in bed with me and he understabds and has no problem with it.

I guess what I am saying is that ladies if you had a good husband before you found out he is a crossdresser then you need to realize that his dressing is probably part of the reason he is that good man. I would bet that if you really look at yourself he has accepted things about you that he could have walked away from. After reading so much on here and the rest of the internet I fully understand why crossdressers are afraid to come out with it. Talk to him and support him. Let him know your concerns and limits. Other than sometimes wanting him in bed as a man I have no limits. In fact I have started to encourage him to go out dressed. Guess what had happened, our relationship gets stronger daily.

Re: Why Do Men Crossdress?

madeline — Wed, 28 Sep 2011 17:28:45 -0000

I`m in my 50s and I`ve been crossdressing since I was 12. My lady friend who is older than I accepts it and she lets me keep my femme clothes at her house. She especially likes to see me dressed as a Frech schololgirl. She even calls me Madeline. I never really had a femme name, but I love it! I generally dress conservatively, and I love lingere, stockings-not pantyhose, corsets, girdles, swimwear, long dresses and skirts, and evenng gowns. I HATE to wear pats.

Re: Crossdressing Men

stephine — Thu, 22 Sep 2011 12:01:33 -0000

Hi Cristal.I must have just been lucky.Because I've never had any problems.I do ask most of the time if I can try the items on.Sometimes the sale's people will walk with me and open a stall for me. good luck.

Re: Crossdressing Men

Stephine — Thu, 22 Sep 2011 11:55:25 -0000

I feel the same.My wife and i go's shopping together.I'm busting at my crotch to get home and wear what ever we have bought.I can go from non horny to a hot sex slave in seconds.

Re: My Closet Crossdresser Secret

Brian — Sat, 16 Jul 2011 07:56:31 -0000

i read what ur all saying but id like to know where you can go to dress up are there any private places where you can go and relax without being discoverd or even leave your clothes, Bryony.

Re: Why Do Men Crossdress?

jenowen — Fri, 15 Jul 2011 06:44:54 -0000

My wife is away for the weekend, and oddly the kids are elsewhere, i am alone with her panties, and just can't resist their allure. I've seen them so silken upon her, with gentle pleading, they call for my touch. i love her for more than her wardrobe, though her panties entice me so much. But simply they can’t leave the closet at least with no blouse or a skirt, and maybe some stockings or nylons, and a wondrously soft undershirt. Society says it’s not proper, for men to be clothed in such frill, but i don't want to wallow in men's dirty ways, or bask in the stench of their swill. Please ladies, please understand me, You’re to be admired in every light, God's gift to men is what you really are, but your clothing is stronger than might, i want to feel clean and free from men's will but to do that i need to be like you. Independently having a say so, Free to make choices, but still It is the only way, that i know to relate, and to feel the acceptance it brings, so i may slightly understand women, and feel included in feminine things. YES, I know its a bit of a turn off, for you to think of me wearing tights i don't mean to infringe private female concerns, but you won when you fought for your rights, With this shift in the balance of power, what women were once forced to do men will now do in submission to them but truly are the clothes the issue? The whole world is changing around us, and every cartoon will suggest that the more feminine man is the standard and that he should be wearing the dress Where once men had imposed their comforts for selfishly carnal desires ‘twas their want of control and dominion that proved they were mostly all liars High heels were designed with men in mind for the discomfort felt in their stride but women became so attractive in them , that lust was controlling men’s pride So why do you ask would men do such a thing? well, women just do things to men, clothed in such delicate lovliness that’s why we want to be more like them We don't mean to shirk our commitments we love you with all of our hearts but we’re just ashamed and we’re jealous for we’ve noticed we’re missing some parts Please do not look down upon us with despising indignant disgrace we just want to feel the embrace of your love while we’re the ones dressed in the lace If women wear pants in the family We will yield to them the control We just want the feminine comforts That come with the redefined roles We do not mean to insult you But really when push comes to shove We are merely withholding our weakness from you For fear you’ll withdraw all your love. Right now I am wearing your panties and would love to be wearing much more if only ‘twas (our) little secret I don’t think I could ask for much more if you could only try not to judge me and permit this indulgent desire there’s nothing I wouldn’t do to bring pleasure to you. Be it most anything you require be it tight leash or a collar, threat of being exposed, or giving up fear of detection i’d tell you the truth in a heartbeat. To no longer fear your rejection May I tell you the truth? May I trust you? In the hopes that you will not betray? And tell all you know just to find out What degrading things others might say? All that I need I can find in you For you are the love of my life And if you want control I will gladly swap roles And willingly I’ll be the wife That is why men dress like women, And many men wouldn’t admit To secretly loving your closets for fear of your having a fit I’d rather be collared and captive Bound at the feet of my bride Than be subject to cruel pride and arrogance From self-seeking men who decide
That I’m of a lesser status
Oh, so much lower than them Made to do what they want by decisions And used for amusement and whims Every harsh word that they’ve spoken, Words with intention to hurt Words of decrading resentment Has caused me to hide in your skirts Made to do what they want by decisions And used for amusement and whims Every harsh word that they’ve spoken, Words with intention to hurt Words of decrading resentment Has caused me to hide in your skirts Passionately intimate Is love’s tenderness and care If only you’ll be tolerant What sweet honesty we'll share But I never even perceived you to be a Threat or potential harm I want only to love and embrace you And hold you in satin clad arms I seek only shelter and safety I trust you to love and be kind Yes dear I’m wearing your undies and sincerely i hope you won't mind By Jennifer

Re: Caught Crossdressing

Allansmithee — Thu, 30 Jun 2011 23:49:44 -0000

Hi Samantha,
I enjoyed your story so very much. I used to dress but not anymore, so i love stories like yours.
I live in Kennewick and would enjoy hearing more stories from you. Leave me a note here of you'd like.

Allan

Re: Crossdressing Husband

Kacee022002 — Mon, 27 Jun 2011 11:55:40 -0000

I wish I was that lucky. I told her and all she could say is so you want to be a girl are you going for the operation and hormones. I explained I like womens clothing. It makes me feel better. Only time will tell. I wish mine wife was more understanding.

Re: Transgender Support

shielahaims — Wed, 22 Jun 2011 11:45:27 -0000

i have found that the accomplished feminine crossdressers can be so snobby and hurtful and rude to us sisters that are still working ond all our let downs and not up toos, when i become a more selfe assured confident crossdresser will i have to be snobby and hurtful too?

Re: Why Do Men Crossdress?

nikki — Tue, 21 Jun 2011 13:49:47 -0000

If it feels good then do it who is it hurting anyway mebbe a lil expensive cause womens cloths cost a lot and if your like me i have every thing you could imagine

Re: Why Do Men Crossdress?

Chester2u — Fri, 17 Jun 2011 20:09:50 -0000

I think womens cloths are so soft and warm and colorful not like the drab mens stuff womens cloths have way more vibrant colors and textures i esp love all kinds of lingerie bras panties camisols shorts capris blouses skirts shoes could go on an on as far as the bras i have natural breasts and i need to wear a bra i cant go topless at all so even in the summer i have to wear a t shirt womens of course or a bikini top might look a lil different but would a woman go topless dont think so i am a 36b and proud of it

Re: Why Do Men Crossdress?

Rhonda1948 — Tue, 14 Jun 2011 22:29:07 -0000

My wife is a female to female person.Cross dressing with her I feel accepted by her.As a male she always is indifferent to me.As a female she trusts me more.We shop together for panties and bras.I haunt gone beyond panties and bra.

Re: Crossdressing Men

Dritter734 — Tue, 10 May 2011 08:39:03 -0000

i agree 100 percent...im 59...cd since 4....normal life...still in closet....straight...sensuality and pleasure...thats why i dress...i walk into a department store...find a sea of color and every fabric imaginable on earth...where...lingerie dept...mens underwear....give me a break...its sucks...the selection sucks... womens lingerie is like a viagra pill...if you know what i mean

Re: Crossdressing Men

Dritter734 — Tue, 10 May 2011 08:26:01 -0000

i've cross dressed since 4 ...secretly...through elementary , high school, college , during my marriage of 20 some years...i've read and researched...bottom line for me...its all about freedom to experience sensual pleasures....i love freedom...i love feeling good...i love the feel of silk and lace against my body...am i a girl ....no....do i want to be....no.....im a man who loves everything....including womens clothes....i was raised by straight hard working parents.....church every sunday....etc....prudes and the puritan ethic try to control ...it just damm sucks....thankyou

Re: My Secret Fetish

Tracy Burton04 — Sun, 08 May 2011 13:22:59 -0000

I am also a secret crossdresser. I have been out dressed up late at night, i love the feel of the breeze or the wind on my stocking clad legs, it makes me feel so sexy as i walk the streets near to where i live, and the excitment of some one seeing me.

Tracy xxx

Re: Crossdressing Men

GILLIAN — Sun, 08 May 2011 04:36:24 -0000

I am fortunate enough to have a great friend who likes me as a 'woman' more than when I am my natural self. Of course, she still like ME, but she prefers the 'girly me' much more.

I have a huge collection of clothes and underwear and I dress when its convenient to do so. Going out in a nice new outfit is an amazing feeling and I become a completely different person.

I think the reason I dress up is nothing more than a challenge to do it nicely and well.

Mens clothing is nothing short of boring and drab. Women's clothes are exciting and beautiful. The range of styles and different fabrics are wonderful, and I just like the opportunity to wear such lovely things and create a beautiful woman. The kind of woman ''I myself'' would like as a companion or partner.

By the way. Sex is furthest from my mind, and the horror of someone thinking or suggesting that I might be gay is my biggest fear. FOR ME IT IS AN ART FORM. NOTHING ELSE.

Re: Caught Crossdressing

Luv23way — Thu, 28 Apr 2011 23:23:13 -0000

OMG, I live in Land O' Lakes too!!!

Re: Crossdressing Men

Your NameWarrenWickes — Wed, 27 Apr 2011 23:55:01 -0000

I have done a lot of amateur theatre work[acting]. Now I would like to play a role as a woman if I can find the opportunity. I feel comfortable in skirts and blouses.

Re: Why Do Men Crossdress?

Nathan Jacobsen — Tue, 19 Apr 2011 03:24:42 -0000

I Love feeling sexy! I love sex with women, Just want to feel as sexy as they look!!

Re: Why Do Men Crossdress?

Nathan Jacobsen — Tue, 19 Apr 2011 03:06:17 -0000

Well, when I was eightteen, I wasnt a virgin by the way just hadnt been real intimate, I met the sweetest, sexiest, most innocent and pure tiny little thing I had ever laid eyes on. Before I was having sex because all my buddies were and thought I had to keep up. I honestly never had feelings for any of them till her. Anyway, I wanted nothing more than to kiss, hug, lick, etc. I was ready to do all the really intimate exciting things I had read about or seen on TV. I went to her appartment EVERY day for two months catering to her and trying to win her over as she was the most desireable little thing I had ever seen. She showed me interest or I wouldnt have kept coming back. However she would never show any interest in going to bed with me. Finally one night she mentioned she had this huge tatoo on her outer thigh to her waist. I asked to see it. She then unzipped her tight jeans and pulled them down to show me her leg (tatoo). She had on a flowery pair of SATIN String Bikini Panties (which by the way are still to this day my favorate. Any ways, I never knew that I could be so excited over seeing some panties but I was. I was instantly erect and went into her bathroom to masterbate because I was so excited about those panties and how sexy her ass and hips looked. When I went into her bathroom I noticed a pair on the floor. Of course I felt creepy but I had to put them on. Oh my god it was the best feeling I had ever felt to stroke myself with that satin and my ass felt so sexy. So for the next several years I had bought different styles and colors and matierals. Remember I was eighteen, When I turned about 23 I finally told her, yes the same girl, we had a child by then. she got so excited she made me put some on and take her right then and there. It was the most exciting sex we had ever had. I am now 34, still with her, we have 4 kids and still have the best sex life a guy could ever ask for. Oh yea and I almost ALWAYS wear solid colored String Bikini Panties, even to work. Love em! And of course we wear stockings and bras too. We have multiple orgasm porn star sex every night and have been together for sixteen years!!!! I just feel sorry for the dudes that cant share it with someone.